Happy Family Arena

Marriage is said to be the coming together of two individuals of opposite sex, from totally different background, with the intention of sharing each other's company for the rest of their lives. The challenges that comes with this journey is sometimes not so clear from the onset and it is for this reason you find two persons who were virtually inseparably in love but within some months as married couples, they divorce and the love vanishes. The level of uncertainties that comes with married life is enormous. So this question was raised in a group I belong to on FB ( The Marital Bliss community ) which explores the possibilities of intentional happy marriage. The responses to this question left me with more questions and opened my eyes how diverse our human understanding is, in the issues of marriage. In contributing to the discussions, i posited that yes one can prepare enough for marriage but several others disagreed. Here is my position; On this question, bearing in mi...

No man or woman, no husband or wife sees the best of their partner before marriage. As you progress in years as a couple, there always seem to be changes in the character of your partner. But in actual sense those things you see as changes, are characters evoked by the situations  of marriage. Marriage obeys the Law of astronomy; the higher you go the cooler it becomes. No matter how long you have stayed with your partner, your individuality remains. As a husband, your wife is still a woman and as a wife, your husband is still a man. Here are four precious tips to keep your marriage going... 1. Always Remember Peace is a Choice in Marriage Peace like they say is not the absence of conflict but the ability to amicably handle tension and crisis. For every crisis in a home, both the husband and wife are responsible. It is usually as a result of the action of one partner or the reaction of the other. Or rather the inaction  of both parties that leads to conflict. ...

Parenting  according to Wikipedia, is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, financial, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood.  Parenting  refers to the aspects of raising a child aside from the biological relationship. This definition, for me, captured in totality what a good parent is supposed to do in the life of his/her child. Unfortunately, some parents either by way of choice or ignorance, only focus on one aspect of the parenting duty, leaving the child to the mercy of society to influence the rest.  This incomplete parenting has led many growing children suffer deprivation and such coursed them to live an unfulfilled and unhappy life. Therefore, the aim of this post is to help parents learn some simple and effective approach to training a child and by extension, nurture him/her into a happy, sound, confident and unique adult.  

The coming together of two individuals of opposite sex and sometimes opposite personality in marriage is the starting point of a home. As soon as a man and a woman agree between themselves  to come together and lawfully share each other for the rest of their lives, a new home is made. And most times new couples get marriage wishes like; “May your married life be filled with happiness, joy and never-ending love? Have a happy married life” -  Anonymous

In this sojourn called Life, you might have found yourself in situations in which you lack proper words to explain. When you are left confused, lost and in despair. A moment, when you feel so broken and lonely . As if there is a heavy and gloomy cloud around you. You can feel it, but the more you try to understand what has happened or is happening to you, the more you feel so powerless to do something to escape from its cage. Some say it is the lowest ebb when life means nothing anymore. Emptiness becomes a daily experience. And as if that is not enough, all of a sudden, you realize you are all alone in your world; like an outcast, good for nothing, you become so dejected that fear and feeling of rejection sets in, anger becomes a daily food. At nights, the sound of your teeth becomes your only music and tears become your best facial cleansing solution. 

“When I lay down the reins of this administration, I want to have one friend left, and that friend is inside myself”~ Abraham Lincoln   D espite all the negative publicity and trials in his life, Abraham Lincoln remained resolute in being a man who for the greater part of his existence stock to his convictions and made his inner self confidence his best friend. You may begin to ask what integrity is after all and why is it important that one should waste his precious energy penning down his thoughts on it. Have you ever wondered why, someone on the same mission with you, all of a sudden decide to play a different   tune from the earlier agreed music without a strong and convincing reason, may be just because he has a personal interest to protect.   Am sure the next thing that will come to your mind is; he is not a man of his words.  What does it mean to be a man of your words? It means that you are a man who for the greater part of your days can ...

Have you ever given a gift to someone expecting a "thank you" in return? How do u feel when the person fails to appreciate the gift?   On the other hand , how do you feel when someone says 'thank you' with a big smile for a  gesture you considered insignificant?  Reflecting on these will lead us to one discovery; there is great reaction in your inner self when you give, either in anticipation for a reward or as a selfless service.  Some of  the situations that prompt one to give might include the following; 1. We gave Because someone asked for a particular gift, it can be a present, financial help etc. 2. We noticed that someone is in need and decide to share. 3. We are performing an obligatory assignment, like a parent paying for a child's school fees.   In  all these, we always tend to achieve an aim; making available that which is needed by another person.   And by definition a gift is  a present or an...

I welcome you to the place of happiness, where we share the best way to live a happy family life and by extension, create a happy society. We intend to present in this blog, series of topics that relates to family life.   Good Parenting Tips There has been a sort of misconception on the side of parents on what a child really need to grow up. Most parents believe that parenting is all about providing the child with  good food, best of cloths and best of schools without having time to nurture their person. And by so doing, they fail to raise a responsible adult. Some other parents consider parenting as an ordeal one has to go through as a part of married life. They in the process of raising their child, lay courses on their children their by impacting negatively on the child's psyche.  Shammi Sukh, in his book, Precious Tips on Parenting , put it thus " Merely begetting children, providing them with good food, shelter or career education does not make anyone a gr...